4 Break Up Situations You May Not Be Able to Overcome

Author: Chris Tyler

I'd like to give mostly positive statements dealing with break up situations, as I know how tough they can be to deal with. However, being realistic is just as important as being positive, so it is good to keep in mind that there are some break up situations that you just can't overcome and no amount of positive thinking is going to change that. That might sound like me being a downer, but I think it is better to have a realistic outlook on situations as opposed to having false hope about being able to turn things around when that probably is not going to be the case.

Here are 4 of those break up situations where you probably can't overcome the odds and win back your ex girlfriend, as positive as you might be about your prospects:

1. You were caught cheating on your ex girlfriend and now she feels like there is no way that she can ever trust you again.
Cheating is a deal breaker for a lot of women and the moment that a woman finds out that you have been unfaithful, you can pretty much count on all trust being thrown out the window. Once that trust is gone, it can be really hard to get it back. I know that you can probably cherry pick a few situations here and there where a guy was caught cheating and found a way to get back his ex girlfriend, but those situations are usually far and few in between. The reality is that once you have been exposed as a cheater, a lot of the time that means that you have no chance of being able to win back your ex girlfriend. Of course, you know her better than I do, so you might have a better perspective on whether or not she is the kind of woman who would forgive a situation where you were unfaithful. I just wouldn't count on that being the case, so that you are not disappointed when you find out that you are not going to be able to reconcile with her.

2. She realized that you had lied about something big and that made her feel as though she didn't really know the real you.

There are little lies and then there are big ones. The little ones are usually easy to overcome, it is the big ones that you really have to worry about. If you were caught in a lie and that is the reason why your ex girlfriend kicked you to the curb, then you might have to just accept that you messed up and paid the price for that. While there are times when you can kind of make up for lying to her, if it is a really big lie that you told and that lie was a big reason why she liked you in the first place, then you are probably not going to stand much of a chance of being able to win her back.

3. You found out that she was the one who was unfaithful and she is still seeing that guy, but you want her back.

This isn't as rare of a situation as you might think it is. I have handled many questions that dealt with a scenario like this. The guy finds out that his girlfriend is really seeing another guy on the side and breaks up with her. Then he gets to the point where he really misses her and he wants her back, but she is still fooling around with the guy she cheated with. That ends up being such a messy situation, I would not even bother with putting in much effort to try and win her back. You might feel like you can win her back and make her forget about that other guy, but that doesn't mean that it will really happen that way. Besides, when you look at things rationally, you'll see that she would probably end up in the arms of another man even if you were to get her back.

4. Her family disapproves of you so much that it causes a strain on her relationship with them.
For some women, it doesn't really matter that much what their family thinks about the guy that they are dating. For others, it matters a whole lot. If this was the reason why she ended the relationship, then you already know that she is one of the ones who thinks that it is a big deal what her family thinks. For that reason alone, you should be able to see that getting her back is probably going to end up being a pretty tiresome chore and the reality is that you might not be able to. Really, in a situation such as this, you'd have to change the opinions of her family members as well as her opinion and that is just too much if you ask me.

While it might be nice to think that you can ovecome any obstacle in regards to your ex girlfriend, the fact remains that there are some situations where you are going to be better off with finding someone else to be with. Love isn't nearly as scarce as you might think it is and even though you might feel like your ex girlfriend was the perfect woman for you to be with, your opinion might change if you are able to go out and meet other women who make you feel just as good as your ex girlfriend did. That being said, if you still feel like your ex girlfriend is worth winning back and you are willing to put in the effort, you might be able to beat the odds.

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